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How does one handle being a "fallen hero"?

I recently met a gentleman who experienced what he called "fallen hero syndrome". Being clueless about his dilemma,  i inquired "whatever, sir, might that be? " The gentleman, went on to explain that he had in essence fallen from the good graces of those in his "circle of life" who considered him their hero!!!!  This gentleman expressed that although the hero status was not one he voluntarily sought - his colleagues as their leader, his children and spouse as their role model became distraught, disappointed and discouraged when he dishonored himself and by association, them, from the high esteem held and stature bestowed on him.

WHEN WILL WE EVER LEARN?

The need for tolerance, understanding and sensitivityis at a critical point in our society and world right now - this very minute!!! Such is the illustration of events in Ferguson, MO, the status of our political acumen, the middle east and across this world in general.  How is it that we as a people refuse to learn from all the violence and unrest that besieged our citizenry and society to yet repeat over again and again?  

Why is it that people of color and those economically challenged must relive the experience of insensitivity by those with privilege and obsessive power?

Someone New!!

I realize it has been a while since submitting this page- but I do have a good reason. Just recently, we became proud grandparents of a lovely healthy baby girl - Lily Jade.  Wow, jsut when you thought nothing or no one else could bring such pride and happiness to your life then along comes "baby girl"!!!  For all the other grands out there - I know this is nothing new - but it is new and special for me.  Was not sure I was ready for the "grandpa" status but like my grey hair - it is one of those things in life one has to accept and appreciate as another  blessing from the creator above!

GROWING NEED FOR TOLERANCE - 2014

This past sunday- I missed mass due to the weather, so why not take the opportunity to watch it on television?  As unusual and uneventful as this might seem - it soon turned into a disappointment and most distasteful experience.  The theme of this week's sermon revolved around "family" and Marriage - marriage of the "traditional sort"!  Hmm, how alarming when this "man of the cloth" began to pontificate and singularly define family and marriage to his congregants and television audience.

What's in a holiday?

We have reached the final month of another year. The holiday season is upon us and what have we done to make a difference in the world in which we live???  With the loss of Mr Mandela and others within in our global society - what do we do to continue the work of change and progress in this global environment?  There are so many folk doing positive things but their efforts seem to get lost in what is wrong in the world versus what folk are doing right!! Let's keep above the fray of negativity during this season of giving and care - make that the

Power of Opposites and Beyond

According to Science Fiction novelist Orson Scott, "In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him..."What a powerful statement from the movie Ender's Game.  I saw the movie last week and absolutely loved it.  Not only did it represent levels of morality questions but its diverse cast and elements of reflective/sensitive thought were overwhelmingly impressive.

You have read my thoughts about how one often seems to attract those most opposite to oneself.

Obvious Mediation Needed

Are you on info overload from bureaucratic rhetoric yet??? Yes, I am referring to the latest of Congressional antics that have resulted in a US government shut down!  What does this mean to the average citizen who 1) can't work because their office or work site is literally "shut down" for operation; or 2) those workers who are exempt or essential but are working for a congressional IOU until whenever congress peeps decide to approve a continuing resolution.  How does this work with one's creditors?

Power of Opposites - Continued

Insight #4

The response on this subject has been overwhelming - so here I go again to add just anothr perspective of thought.  Thanks for the feedback and keep it coming!!!

What is it about people who are most unlike me - I most attrack?   

Guess this is where the old adage makes sense huh? OPPOSITES ATTRACK! Damn yo, why did it have to be me?  This guy is really not my type, but doggone it he sure is sexy!!!   What about all the “good girls” who like those “bad boys”?

Great Community Spirit in Cleveland

Some really positive things were done today in Clevelandand I am so very proud to know the sponsors for this event.  Lifeline youth football clinic - conducted their first major event for the youth in the Cleveland Community today.  Many celebrity athletes, lots of volunteers and supporters and most importantly youngsters from the community had a wonderful, powerful, positive day.  This was a magnificent showing of Us Helping Us in the African American Community.  Keep it going!

Same Sex Marital Issues

What a powerful thing- the Supreme Court done done away with DOMA - WOW!!!  Hey folks we are truely open now for business.  

Just like any married couple - same sex married couples continue to need a place to talk out their wears and woes.  I look forward to conducting/facilitating gay marriage sessions - a needed forum in which to air the frustration, but also tocelebrate the good thingshappening in the relationship.  This is where I really want to spend my time - let's share and give each other props about what we are doing right and keeping that relationship healthy, loving and stress free.
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