According to Science Fiction novelist Orson Scott, "In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him..." What a powerful statement from the movie Ender's Game. I saw the movie last week and absolutely loved it. Not only did it represent levels of morality questions but its diverse cast and elements of reflective/sensitive thought were overwhelmingly impressive.
You have read my thoughts about how one often seems to attract those most opposite to oneself. So did Ender. He so much wanted to not only prove himself, but also to be accepted. Yet, his drive for competition and acceptance - elevated him to a level of authority that even amazed him. Which then poses more questions for me. Does one attract the opposite because there is something about self you are lacking? a need in your inner circle of satisfaction or even conquest to prove your ability to deal with such an individual?? Not real sure, but the thought has pondered me. After a 30 year relationship which has been so so unfulfilling and understood well enough to defeat - in this moment I so so understand the love!!! Damn is that not frustrating or what???
So to all my readers out there - think about who you find your self attracted or conversely them to you - be mindful what it means in the long and short term. Is it real? Is it healthy? Is it worth the differences? Are they really an enemy, with whom you are now in love?????? Give it some thought and let me know. Chat some more!!!