We have reached the final month of another year. The holiday season is upon us and what have we done to make a difference in the world in which we live???  With the loss of Mr Mandela and others within in our global society - what do we do to continue the work of change and progress in this global environment?  There are so many folk doing positive things but their efforts seem to get lost in what is wrong in the world versus what folk are doing right!! Let's keep above the fray of negativity during this season of giving and care - make that the

According to Science Fiction novelist Orson Scott, "In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him..."What a powerful statement from the movie Ender's Game.  I saw the movie last week and absolutely loved it.  Not only did it represent levels of morality questions but its diverse cast and elements of reflective/sensitive thought were overwhelmingly impressive.

You have read my thoughts about how one often seems to attract those most opposite to oneself.

Are you on info overload from bureaucratic rhetoric yet??? Yes, I am referring to the latest of Congressional antics that have resulted in a US government shut down!  What does this mean to the average citizen who 1) can't work because their office or work site is literally "shut down" for operation; or 2) those workers who are exempt or essential but are working for a congressional IOU until whenever congress peeps decide to approve a continuing resolution.  How does this work with one's creditors?

Wow, summer is over and today's the lastopportunity for wearing one's cool seasonal white garb.  As green begins to trasition to autum reds and browns - I want to seek new ways to operate and create new energy.  Summer madness leads to winter woes - I need a new way to process and communicate.  All who read this - what do you seek?  Help me identify the kind of energy to excite my self and my clients.  Not just recycled oldies, but a brand new creativity and wonderment!!!  Who has some provoking thoughts about moving the world and its occupants to a fresh and functional continuation about a path of newness?  Help a brother out???  Wanting to be on the cutting edge - counting on creativity and congruence to carry me forward.  Send me a message!!  Share a thought!! Help to create a new history that treks to a fresh forward stream of thoughtfulness!  

What is it about people who are most unlike me - I most attrack?   

Guess this is where the old adage makes sense huh? OPPOSITES ATTRACK! Damn yo, why did it have to be me?  This guy is really not my type, but doggone it he sure is sexy!!!   What about all the “good girls” who like those “bad boys”?

Some really positive things were done today in Clevelandand I am so very proud to know the sponsors for this event.  Lifeline youth football clinic - conducted their first major event for the youth in the Cleveland Community today.  Many celebrity athletes, lots of volunteers and supporters and most importantly youngsters from the community had a wonderful, powerful, positive day.  This was a magnificent showing of Us Helping Us in the African American Community.  Keep it going!

What a powerful thing- the Supreme Court done done away with DOMA - WOW!!!  Hey folks we are truely open now for business.  

Just like any married couple - same sex married couples continue to need a place to talk out their wears and woes.  I look forward to conducting/facilitating gay marriage sessions - a needed forum in which to air the frustration, but also tocelebrate the good thingshappening in the relationship.  This is where I really want to spend my time - let's share and give each other props about what we are doing right and keeping that relationship healthy, loving and stress free.

INSIGHT THREE  

If communication is key – why do we see so much less of it in adirectsort of way?  

Just think about the important discussions going on in the world today - between the handlers and the news media.  Why can’t there just be time taken to sit down and talk things out more directly?   As a mediator/coach, it is what I like to emphasize most – let’s just talk about it.  Don’t worry about what you initially want, need or desire – that piece of self will come later by practicing at being open and move toward building trust.

Having a someoneyou can trust in these days of uncertainty and change - can be not only useful but imperative.  I try very hard to provide a venue for couples experiencing this needed service.   Are there other more wise folk out there? Probably - but not everybody seems comfortable in talking about it in this forum.  For those who appreciated the blog or at the least discussing or mentioning the issue -thanks,and I urge you/insist you to write back and share your enlightening thoughts and feelings!

INSIGHT Two  Role reversal – if I can see it – I can manage it – maybe??  Ever asked the question from/ of others – “Is that how I really act? Is that how people really see me?”  Steve Erkle (character on TV’s Family Matters) may have said it best, “Did I do that??”  Sometimes the man/woman in the mirror is not always a pleasant sight to reflect, but sometimes we just need a visual.