Having a someone you can trust in these days of uncertainty and change - can be not only useful but imperative. I try very hard to provide a venue for couples experiencing this needed service. Are there other more wise folk out there? Probably - but not everybody seems comfortable in talking about it in this forum. For those who appreciated the blog or at the least discussing or mentioning the issue - thanks, and I urge you/insist you to write back and share your enlightening thoughts and feelings!!
As a mediator for over a decade - getting to the bottom line takes time. Clients have to feel comfortable in expressing themselves especially in a safe environment in which they can be heard individually, as a half of a couple or dare I speculate even as a member of a group. Relationships are a challenge in any configuration - a good mediator should be sensitive to the work and even the challenge to be able to help others work on themselves. I find it especially powerful when the "ah ha" moment or break through occurs. It is uplifting and humbling at the same time.
I must admit - I've had a pretty good counselor who has helped me and my relationship - I want to be able to continue to pay it forward and help others.